Sexism in greek society is a lake where all evil is born. Men, still today, whether they come from the far left, the far right of the horizon or the heavens of orthodox faith are expected to be somewhat macho, while women should react in a europeanised submissive manner… and all that had always been a messy affair, but it was still cool while we were having fun back in the 90s. Now that times are getting darker with the day, it seems that the golden dawn fascists are not satisfied simply by beating up their wives and the left-winged activists are far too busy going from assembly to demonstration to have any time to spend with their children. Wives, mothers and over-worked single women tend to be uninvolved and anyway unavailable. Who gives a shit about what they have to say, who ever gave a shit unless they turned on their manliness? And even then they would probably be mocked by a man rolling a cigarette and sipping coffee going something like “step down little darling and shut it, this isn’t the time for your little complaints”, while his male friends would gang around and giggle. Well I do get why it’s no time to worry about trees, endangered species and fishery depletion, but your kids man or your housekeeper-cleaner-child carer-sex toy-hard working woman, shouldn’t you give a shit about her?
And again there are those who do get the equation: what you give is what you get, but those are the minority. Most of my girl friends are the sole carers of their offspring, in fact some of their husbands are rarely seen and then there are those who do all they should and we all go “ohhhh bless, isn’t he lovely!?”, well hell no! he’s only doing what he ought to have committed to when he knocked you up!
It’s not oblivion feeding this vicious circle of children grown up to sexist beliefs, it’s also fear for not being conventional enough in a society so committed to its social cliques that it entirely looses sight of what personal development stands for and how that could be shared.
But for time to be spent effectively in a social context, time needs to be spent effectively in homes and self-respect needs to be cultivated internally through educating ourselves about what we are and what we have. It takes education to appreciate this process by the majority, education which none of us has enjoyed in this country. However, there is a minority, irrespective of social class, political, or religious beliefs who happened to grow up in a democratic loving family, in which mum respected dad and so did he. Sadly, I have come across no such example from my middle class circle, but surprisingly I have done in the working class areas I visited with my old job, giving presentations on recycling and environmental issues.
Could we be in desperate need of a new working class with newly found respect for work, itself and others after all? Could this man-governed society be in desperate need of a woman to tidy up the political and ideological mess, as well as the home? And do people really need to learn to spend time with those that are most close to them, their very own families, as opposed to their extended relatives? As family resources are being depleted I am hoping for the magic of work and companionship to emerge again one day, while respect for the sickly, old fashioned and tired elders to be replaced by healthy youthful renewal.